In an age where women are dominating - in the workplace, at school, at home - why are they seeking to be dominated in their love lives? Recent media portrayals have shown that a rising number of modern women fantasize about being overpowered, while studies are turning out statistics that bewilder feminists. New shows like HBO’s Girls and books like Fifty Shades of Grey are showcasing the often hidden desire for powerlessness. But why? Katie Roiphe examines the submissive yet empowered female in Newsweek. “It is perhaps inconvenient for feminism that the erotic imagination does not submit to politics, or even changing demographics,” she writes. (via newsweek)
Relevant topic, Newsweek! (I’m obsessed with Fifty) Here’s the thing, I feel like a lot of men have lost sense of where they belong in the current social paradigm. I mean, in the past 20 years, there’s been almost no value placed on being an assertive man who is a solid provider and wants to look after a wifey and family.
While women have been busy taking birth control, going to school and working; our male counter-parts have been making artisan soap, jerking off to anal internet porn (you know who you are) and tweeting. What did you think was going to happen? Yeah, we’re guilty of clamoring for the fantasy portrayal of a dominant man, but not necessarily because we want to be spanked/tied up/have our breakfast chewed up and fed to us like baby birds (Alicia Silverstone, you are so gross) — more like we miss the strength, decisiveness and competence of masculine energy in our lives.
The pendulum is swinging and maybe we’re at the turning point of a cultural shift.
This is why we’re besties, and take turns being the boyfriend in our relationship. Fuck yes woman. Dassit.